A Guide to Finding the Beliefs That Are Running Your Life
Limiting beliefs are like the lenses over our eyes and become shackles holding us back from our greatest potential — and the most insidious thing about them is that we rarely know they’re there becoming blinded by there existence when they have been there for so long. They spill into our language, our behavior, our choices, and our relationships without us even realizing it.
But here’s what most belief inventories miss: your body already knows the difference.
Every belief produces a felt response. When you’re operating from a limiting belief — a little t truth — there’s usually a quality of contraction. Tightness. Heaviness. A kind of closing in. When you shift into a Big T Truth — a belief that reflects your true nature — the opposite happens. Something expands. You breathe a little deeper. There’s a sense of coming home to yourself. That felt sense is your compass throughout this exercise. Not just your mind — your whole body.
Two Kinds of Truth
Little t truths are what you’ve learned, absorbed, and decided must be true — based on events, environments, and experiences that shaped you, often before you were old enough to question them. They feel like facts. They are not. These truths may feel constricting or limiting or simply ichy.
Big T Truths are the beliefs that expand you. The ones that, when you read them or say them aloud, make something in your chest soften or open — even a little. These are what we’re moving toward, even if there is resistance because the resistance signals growth or opportunity.
The Big T Truths: Positive Core Beliefs
These are what is actually true about you. Read slowly. Notice what opens or needs to be worked on due to resistance or lack of that belief.
About Your Worth
- I am uniquely perfect, whole, and complete
- I am worthy — not because of what I do, but because of what I am
- I am important
- I am valuable
- My mere existence is enough
- I deserve good things simply by being alive
- I am allowed to take up space
- I am more than good enough
- I matter
- My uniqueness is my gift, not my problem
- I am okay exactly as I am, right here, right now
About Your Capability
- I am capable
- I am competent
- I am intelligent in my own unique way
- I learn at exactly the right pace for me
- I can begin before I feel ready
- I can do hard things
- Every mistake teaches me something valuable
- Failure is just data — it guides me forward
- I can figure it out as I go
- I have everything I need to begin
- I grow a little more every single day
About Love and Relationships
- I am lovable — exactly as I am
- I am wanted
- I am deserving of love
- I can receive love easily
- It is safe to love
- The right people find me and stay
- I am surrounded by people who love me
- My feelings are not a burden to others
- I am allowed to need people
- Asking for support is an act of strength, not weakness
- I can be seen and still be safe
About the World and Safety
- I am safe
- I am supported in ways both seen and unseen
- I am held, even when I cannot feel it
- The universe is working for me, not against me
- Everything is working out for me — even the hard parts
- People are fundamentally good
- People want to help me
- There is more than enough for everyone, including me
About Change and Growth
- I am always growing and evolving
- My past prepared me; it does not define me
- I am becoming more myself every single day
- I can trust the timing of my life
- I am allowed to evolve beyond who I used to be
- I can change my mind
- I can begin again at any moment
- Change is safe and available to me
About Money and Success
- I am abundant
- Abundance is my natural state
- I am open to receiving in all forms
- I create from a place of enough, not fear
- There is enough for me
- Prosperity flows to me as I align with my truth
- Wanting more is not selfish — it is human
About Identity and Self-Expression
- I am a divine, individual expression of something far greater than I can see
- I belong wherever I choose to show up
- I am not too much — I am exactly enough
- I was made for what I am here to do
- My body is intelligent and knows how to heal
- My emotions are information, not weakness
- I am whole, even in my imperfection
- I release what was never mine to carry
- I am both the student and the teacher
- I persist and I persevere
About Self-Expression and Authenticity
- I am safe to be seen
- I am safe to be fully known
- My voice matters
- My story has power and belongs in the world
- My sensitivity is a strength, not a flaw
- I am allowed to want what I want
- I am allowed to rest
- Taking care of myself is an act of love — for me and everyone around me
- Asking for what I need is an act of honesty
The Little t Truths: Limiting Beliefs
These feel true. They are not facts — they are filters created from events or situations that made a part feel this way.
About Your Worth
- I am not important
- I am not valuable
- I am not worthy
- I am not good enough
- I don’t deserve good things
- I have to earn love
- I am broken or damaged
- My existence is a burden to others
- I am too much for people
- I am not enough for people
- I need to prove myself to be accepted
- I am only valuable when I am productive
- I’m a fraud — it’s only a matter of time before people find out
- I need a title, a degree, or a label to matter
About Your Capability
- I am hopeless
- I am useless
- I am stupid / not smart enough / to slow
- I am not creative
- I always get it wrong
- I always fail
- I will never succeed
- I can’t stick to anything
- I don’t know enough to begin
- I am too far behind to catch up
- I’m not good at (fill in the blank)
About Love and Relationships
- I am not lovable
- Nobody truly wants me
- Nobody truly understands me
- People always leave
- Love always ends in pain
- I always attract the wrong people
- I am responsible for how other people feel
- If I am vulnerable, people will hurt me
- I have to be needed to be wanted
- I must earn love through giving and helping
- I am too damaged for a healthy relationship
- I am alone — and always will be
- When I talk, people get bored
- I am hopeless in social situations
About the World and Safety
- The world is an unsafe place
- People are untrustworthy
- People are out to get me
- I have to stay small to stay safe
- Being seen is dangerous
- Speaking up will cost me
- Things never work out for me
- Why does this always happen to me?
- I am unlucky
- Good/Bad things never last/end
- I must be happy all the time or something is wrong with me
About Change and Growth
- I cannot change — it is in my blood / my family / my genes
- My past defines me
- It is too late to change or I am too old / too young
- I don’t trust myself
- I can’t trust my own instincts
- I don’t know who I am without this
About Money and Abundance
- I will never be financially secure
- Money is the root of all evil
- Wealthy people are greedy or selfish
- Success means selling out or losing yourself
- Wanting more is selfish
- There is not enough to go around
- If it comes easily, it isn’t worth having
- You have to trample others to get to the top
About Identity and Spirit
- I don’t belong here
- I am different in a way that makes me less-than
- I am too sensitive
- I am too emotional to be taken seriously
- There is something fundamentally wrong with me
- I have to be strong all the time
- I must do everything perfectly
- If I don’t achieve X, there is no point in starting
- Asking for help is weakness
- I must have it all figured out before I can begin
Making This a Practice With A downloadable Exercise
Now it’s your turn, you can download the PDF below to begin the real work.
Step 1: Identify your limiting beliefs.
Using the list above — or your own words — write down the limiting beliefs you recognized in yourself. Trust the ones that landed in your body, not just your head. If a phrase made your chest tighten or your stomach drop, it belongs here.
Step 2: Find the matching Big T Truth.
For each limiting belief, find the corresponding expansive belief. Use the list above, or write your own. The Big T Truth isn’t the opposite of the limiting belief — it’s the truth that was always underneath it, waiting.
Step 3: Find your evidence.
This is the most important step. For each Big T Truth, write down at least 2-3 pieces of real evidence that this is already true in your life. Evidence can be small — a moment someone reached out, a time you did the hard thing, a feeling you’ve had that your body recognized as true.
Making This a Practice
Awareness alone begins the rewiring. But repetition is what makes it permanent.
Once you have your list, try this: each time you hear a limiting belief in your language or your thoughts — pause. Name it. “That’s the part of me that believes I’m not enough.” Then consciously offer the Big T Truth in its place. Not as a forced affirmation, but as a gentle redirection. A suggestion to your nervous system that another way of seeing this is also available.
The goal isn’t to never have the limiting belief again. The goal is to create enough space between yourself and that belief that you can choose which story you carry forward.
You are not your history. You are not your shackles. You are the one who gets to decide what is true from here