Toxic Relationship Patterns And How Hypnotherapy For Relationships Can Get to The Root of An Unmet Childhood Need
Single, newly dating or just had a break up? Either way - you notice a pattern that needs to change and you don't have the time to do years of talk therapy. Don't worry there is hope and that is why you are here. Schedule Consultation with Dr. Ann MarieHypnoTherapy For Relationships
Relationship Patterns Can Show Up As Self Sabotage - Let's Get Rid Of It!
You’ve Noticed the Pattern—But You Need Something Deeper To Get to It.
You’ve been here before. Maybe you just had a breakup or maybe you met someone new, but you have all those similar feelings creeping up again. The same dynamics, the same red flags you ignored, the same way you lose yourself in relationships.
You’re fed up with these toxic cycles and you know you need to go so much deeper than surface-level dating advice.
Why Traditional Dating Advice Doesn’t Work for Toxic Relationship Patterns
Here’s what most relationship advice gets wrong: it assumes your choices are purely logical. But the truth is, your relationship patterns are driven by the subconscious mind’s held programming that was installed long before you ever went on a first date.
The Real Root of Toxic Relationship Patterns
Your relationship patterns aren’t random. They’re based on:
- Early attachment experiences with caregivers that taught you what “love” looks like
- Childhood programming about your worth and what you deserve
- Unhealed wounds that make certain types of dysfunction feel familiar and “safe”
- Subconscious beliefs about relationships that you’re not even aware of
- Nervous system patterns that draw you toward what feels familiar, even when it’s harmful
Your conscious mind might know you deserve better, but your subconscious mind is still operating from old information about what relationships are supposed to feel like.
Some Examples Of Toxic Relationship Patterns That HypnoTherapy Can address…
The Iceberg Model: What’s Really Driving Your Relationship Choices
Think of your relationship patterns like an iceberg. What you see on the surface is just the tip:
1. The Tip: What You Keep Experiencing
- The same arguments and conflicts
- Attracting unavailable or toxic partners
- Feeling unheard, unvalued, or unseen
- Patterns of giving too much or pulling away
2. The Programming: Your Relationship Operating System
- Core beliefs about what you deserve
- Attachment styles formed in childhood
- Patterns of how you learned to get love and attention
- Your “relationship blueprint” inherited from family
3. The Undercurrent: Hidden Drivers
- Unmet emotional needs from childhood
- Invisible fears about intimacy, abandonment, or not being enough
- Subconscious attractions to familiar dysfunction
4. The Bedrock: Your Deepest Foundation
- Your core sense of worth and lovability
- Foundational beliefs about what relationships are supposed to provide
- Your vision of what true partnership looks like
How Hypnotherapy for Relationships Actually Change Your PatternPattern Recognition & Root Cause Discovery
Traditional therapy focuses on the tip of the iceberg—talking about what happened and trying to make better conscious choices. Hypnotherapy for relationships goes deeper, accessing and reprogramming the subconscious patterns that are actually running the show.
Pattern Recognition & Root Cause Discovery [2 hrs]
In our first session, we’ll map out your specific relationship patterns and identify the subconscious programming that’s been driving them. This isn’t about blaming yourself or your past—it’s about understanding why your brilliant subconscious mind learned these patterns and how we can update them.
Hypnotherapy for Relationship Pattern Transformation [Package]
Through a series of individual hypnotherapy sessions we’ll:
- Heal old attachment wounds and childhood programming
- Reprogram your subconscious beliefs about what you deserve
- Install new patterns of attraction to healthy, available partners
- Strengthen your ability to maintain boundaries and recognize red flags
- Help you feel worthy of the love you actually want
Integration & Real-World Application
As the work integrates, you’ll notice:
- Different types of people showing up in your life
- Feeling naturally drawn to healthier relationship dynamics
- Having stronger boundaries without having to force them
- Feeling more confident and secure in your own worth
- Trusting your instincts about people and situations
Most Frequently Asked Questions for Couples
How is this different from regular relationship coaching?
Relationship coaching works with your conscious mind—giving you tools and strategies to use. Hypnotherapy for relationships works with your subconscious mind, where your automatic patterns and attractions are actually formed. It changes what you’re drawn to naturally, not just what you force yourself to do.
Do I need to be in a relationship to do this work?
Not at all. You can be but it is not nessesary. Being single can be the perfect time to do this work because you can focus entirely on healing your patterns without the distraction of managing a current relationship.
At the same time I beleive if you have just statrted dating or seeing someonen it also is a good time to “practice” your new skills as there is feedback from the person you are seeing.
Will this actually work?
Research shows that couples therapy has a 70-80% success rate when both partners are engaged. What makes the difference is addressing the underlying patterns, not just surface communication. Most couples see improvement within the first few sessions when we work at the deeper levels.
What if i been in toxic relationships my whole life?
Yes. The longer you’ve had these patterns, the more deeply ingrained they are—but that also means there’s often a very clear root cause that we can address. Some of my most dramatic transformations have been with people who thought they were “hopeless cases.”
How quickly will I see results?
Many people notice shifts in their attraction patterns and dating choices within a few weeks. The deeper work of fully reprogramming your relationship blueprint typically takes a few months of consistent work.
Do you take sides?
Never and I do my best to assure you and your partner doesn’t feel that way, but it is a delicate dance that only a trained professional can understand.
My role is to help both of you understand your patterns and create new ones together. I’m trained to see the system, not individual blame. Usually, what looks like one person’s ‘problem’ is actually a dance you’re both doing unconsciously.
The dynamic between two people is the system and understanding that system is critical in healing.
Logic That Goes Beyond Science and To The Heart of Relationships
Hi, I’m Dr. Ann Marie and I’m not your traditional couples therapist.
You don’t need to be a doctor to know relationships are hard. Relationships are my jam. Everything I help people do involves relating to others. I bring a unique perspective that combines clinical expertise with real-world understanding. I don’t just know the theory—I understand the physiology of stress, the neuroscience of attachment, and how our subconscious patterns shape every interaction we have. I went to Medical School to learn why we suffer and to heal people but what I found is the greatest cause of suffering stems from our core relationships. Your core relationship shape so much of who we are today – so your relationship with your mother, your father, or care givers as a child. Much of my work centers around healing relationships.
Ann Marie Balkanski, MD
